How to react!!

These days all I see is reaction of people around me, either on tolerance or on intolerance, and I find most of comments are originating either from being prejudice or biased!!  and majority are influenced by media, friends, or some political statement or politician, and few arise from individuals  ideology as well. I feel is it so easy for all of us to get redirected.


All the greatest people, ever walked on his planet only taught us how to react!!


Each of them have lots of theories on reaction.

I will list few reaction strategies of some leaders and some famous reactions of history!!


Mahatma Gandhi ji
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1. Ignore anything that is bad, ( meaning don't hear, see or talk)

2. Don't replicate bad response otherwise it will becomes your response, we are not just mirror, so don't slap back, do not follow newtons 3rd law.


Winston Churchill
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1. It is victory; get it at all costs; victory in spite of all terror; victory, however long and hard the road may be, for without victory there is no survival.”
 Meaning, anything or everything as cost of victory.

Manmohan singh
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silence is best reaction, irrespective of situation










I know one thing about my self, that I can't really  follow or agree to reactions of those leaders completely, do you see, may be somewhere you are as well not willing to follow any of those great people completely, as we have our own ideology, then why do we follow some  news reporter or friend completely, what happens to our so called ideology while watching tv or during emotionally charged speeches.

 And trust me, not all news reporters are journalist and not all of them gives you a complete picture, they are just story tellers, they sell the news as you find it more interesting they have to compete with other tv serials such as sas bhi kabhi bhau thi, and i guess people have stopped watching all those masala serials , for single reason, news are much more spicy!!


So how not to get redirected. Here are some tips.

How to Interpret
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When you see smoke, do you jump to conclusion that it is from cooking food or from burning house, meaning event can have different interpretation. Look for intentions. But fire may be there.

 Now how do we know how to interpret and event, surly I will not burn entire house to roast chicken. So look for its after effect who is actually going to get benefit from this and what benefit. As most of us works for some benefit, only an ordinary man is driven by other dream.


Choose authentic Source and not convenient source of information
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These days we largely source our information either from news channel or from social media, both of them are easy source and they can never show a complete picture, your friend will share a thought which had impact on him/her. Do you like same songs as your friend or have same reactions, news is never on like or dislike bases.

Similarly, news channel will filter and only those news which can hold our attention , they decide what to show us, while in news paper, all the news are listed, it is up to u which one to read and how many times, while news channel, they force us to watch same news again and again and with their interpretation, do u want to follow interpretation of that news reporter, who probably is news reporter as you were smarter then him during collage and he was forced to take up that job just because you never wanted it.

Recall your ideology
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Remember that like others even you biased and you may favour words of certain person, so keep that fact always in mind and dont take your own mood or words very seriously,


Dont jump to conclusion
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as many times we realize that was my impulse reaction which we at times regret later, since no one is asking for our reaction instantly, delay your reaction on such news for sometime, learn to postpone your reaction till you finish reading the complete news and till you get see all cards.

why do lions get angry!

On closely observing the nature of a lion and tiger, I realized lions get angry for no reason from time to time. In contrast, tigers charge up only before the kill, and anger is not part of tigers nature. When I shared this observation with mom, she said, lion lives with kids and wife, in family and thus gets into the habit of getting angry. At the same time, the poor tiger is all alone and has no one to get mad on, and he remains calm and quiet. It's all about habit and near and dears ones!!

Go get it

For absolutely no reason, after organizing little clutter from my desk, I got this, go get it attitude. And I realized clutter in life, and pending jobs restrict you from doing something. Finishing means living in the present. I have so many Todo's, my list is endless and totally cluttered. I recently started using Emacs for at least organizing or making a connection between various Todo. Life seems very small, and one gets into live this moment mode when you keep your self up to date and finishes all tasks.  On the contrary, when we have so much pending, we assume we can do it tomorrow, and thus have increased life span in mind. And we have scope for endless days, we live longer in mind and starts to plan and keep things for tomorrow and the future. Life gets distributed to several days. What one can experience in a day is now distributed to days and fuss. Life becomes dull, live like no tomorrow. No future.

Sense of progression!

Why do a class of people love playing candy crush so much??

Assume you are promoted by 300 levels in candy crush, do u think you would need new skills to cross that level, absolutely no, there is no need to have any specialized expertise. You play any level with the current set of skills. That skill is sufficient to cross that level, so what exactly is changing from one level to another? Why are people so mad about playing it?

Another way to look at this is, let's say the game is the same, but now instead of levels you just get points, and it is all about earning more points, and not level, will you be mad about such games? May be No.

It is all about the sense of progression, you feel you are progressing and attain a different level, but in reality, you are still the same with the same set of skills, but higher status.

This false sense of progression is what gives us kick.

People need to get a feel of the fact that their salary is being increased, or they are getting regular increments, or they are being promoted, or have climbed one step. This keeps us going, else we get frustrated being stuck. At times, when you teach the same stuff for years, having no increment in the knowledge, but still few people get a kick or given a false sense of kick that at-least number of students is increasing. Ask your self, does your knowledge increases with the addition of a new follower?

Imagine time is not a parameter. We all have the same age in this world. No sense of being elder or younger, just imagine this and you will not like this concept, no fun in living this way, we want to celebrate change, our bdays, new years. We like to cherish this false sense of progression.

In reality, the age of every single person is exactly the same. As all the matter that is present at this moment was always present when the universe originated.

May be Mayberansformed from one atom to another or from one consciousness to another. But the age of everything is the same, and if you have to see this entire creation from the viewpoint of someone who is not part of it. You will be amazed to know that it will appear as a constant thing.

So, where is this sense of progression?

It is in candy crush!!, it is a game, and we are crazy about it!
Keeping loving your candy crush and boost about levels.

We are obsessed with numbers, it gives us a sense of progression, more number of followers in twitter, or in real life, again is a false sense of progress about being more famous, liked by more people, or being more experienced in life or being someone!!, In all this don't forget to enjoy this sense of progression, as it gives joy, and absence of it, takes it away.

One more article, sense of progression!!
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Chain reactions

Most of the things happening around us are chain reactions!

1. You help one person, and reaction triggers, you must have seen videos depicting same.
2. You show anger.. its again spreads...as no ones keeps anger in mind, it needs to be drained. This is the way to protect mind.
3. In case some one takes away your slippers, chain reaction starts, as no one walks barefoot. This is the way to protect feet.
4. You steal someones food, that person will steal from somewhere else. As no one sleeps hungry. This is the way to protect body.

So what are those fundamental principle, conditions or cases in why, which and when such chain reactions occur!
http://www.humortrend.com/humor/14-chain-reaction-gifs-mesmerizing/

Can we create or stop them... at will??

Attack of random questions

Should I write here?

It this good idea to list botheration here?

I am so confused if I should write or not?

What should I write about?

and what the hell I should write?

do I have readers at the first place?

Am I writing to justify something?

Am I writing to impress on someone?

or am i writing for particular person?

Will my message will ever reach in right manner?

should i go back and edit my questions?

why do i write blogs?

Do i write just to express then why not in diary?

Do I want people to read it?

Why do I want people to read it?

does it has impact?

If there is impact then where is response, action reaction?

Or no response?

If response exist then why they are not expressed?

If they are being expressed in what form?

When will I get these responses?

What would be its form a comment from unidentified person or , a phone call, a message, a mail?

Will I ever get the response?

Will I get response in this life time itself?

How people will react to it after my death?

Will My death would have impact and speak for me?

What will i achieve from a response after death?

Will i be remembered after death?

How many people will remember me?

For how long I will be remmbered?

What will i do even if I am remembered?

What's my role?

How can I reduce most of the pain?

Is being independent solution to pains?

How can we minimize dependence on others?

How can we minimize our dependence to materials, society or people?

Can i live in closet?

can I live or die in Himalaya?

What will i do if I get everything I wanted?

What will i do if i get everything but not one thing i wanted?

what will do if I get that one thing i wanted?

Will I be exited or crazy?

What will i do with you?

Have i bored readers now?

Should I stop?

Is readers perspective important or my quest?

Why i am writing this, isn't it because i want people to read it?

are those events in future so powerful that they can motivate me to write now?

Is event in future dictating my present?

Are you dictating me?

will I write otherwise?

what will i do without you?

Strength or weakness

It's been said that "our biggest strength is also our greatest weakness."

So right, let us consider our country.
What do you think is our strength?
People say it is democracy. Think again, it has become a reason for maximum riots, and vote bank politics.

 People say spiritualism is our strength. Of course, it is, but just talking about spirituality is no significant strength. I see many people preach spirituality to masses, with little or no great experience of life itself. Spirituality adds to the knowledge and understanding derived from our experiences, just learning, and no experience may not work.
For a 3-year-old kid, talking about spirituality may mean nothing. As one faces more problems and hurdles in life, spirituality provides more clarity. One needs to have full confusion for a fusion of knowledge in life.


We today are so much into all this, that we are not thinking about growth of country, rather young and good brains of country is busy in thinking and making other think “who am I ?” .

Such questions are foundation, and should be asked but what after getting its clue. Answer to such questions is journey it self, and we confuse it as our AIM in life, forgetting it was not goal but journey.

After getting clue one must live life with more vigor and apply these learning in workplace or for betterment of self and country. Knowledge has to be applied. Teaching and preaching the knowledge without applying, is not knowledge. A person who learn medical science and do not treat patients rather teaches at entry level in some school about medical science, is not really a doctor or live saver. Person must wake up and apply the knowledge in particular field. Educators have their own place, but educating something which does not really exist has no place. Spirituality is not a subject and thus educating it makes no sense, sprituality is ones social/personal experience and thus can not be taught.

Today each of us want to to be talked about, we want people to talk about us, think about us, discuss about us, be in our absence or presence. This originates from the urge that I want to be everywhere and forever. This is killer, and importantly “I” in this whole equation. This “I” means seperation from something which is everywhere and forever, else “I” would not have this strange urge.
Thus any person who aims to be on the minds of people all the time, is actually aiming for something narrow and separating himself/herself from large oneness, and if the person is teaching spirituality with that intention, ohhh what a contradicting urge!!!

Its essential  to have “I” but for short duration, as it is just a label and labels are short lived. Label can not represent everything and forever, otherwise it will violate its definition of being label. So as spritual label one cannot have this strange contradicting urge.

So what is take home message, people who have some clue about our greatest strength, but unfortunately it is becoming our weakness, as most of us care least about the real problems and easily detach themselves from sufferings. As a result  problem remains unsolved, please turn it around, country needs you.

Please don't detach your self from this moment and the feeling you just got, you may be well capable of detching your self,  but time to give big deep thought.